In the previous blog post, I talked about why and how seemingly depressing happenings make 98% of people feel depressed. However, lots of books have been written about these psychological factors so I feel responsible for elaborating on it, too. If we admit that we can change on less outer and more inner circumstances than we think, then you're on the way to experience the significance of self-observation, either consciously or unconsciously.
What does self-observation mean?
There is a short scientifical definition for self-observation which is: the objective observation of one's own attitudes, reactions, or thought processes.
How does this work in reality?
As a practitioner, I can share my experiences and conclusions with you. It is fundamental to develop the personal skill of bringing everything into doubt. The meaning of independence is the ability and willingness to question every information we get. If you eat your food, you check the taste, smell, and texture before you eat it. Use the same method when you consume information as they have a profound impact on you.
The center of self-observation is the observation of your breath. Listen, explore, pay attention to each and every breath you take in and out. No matter, where you are. You breathe continuously, either you're aware of it or not. You can either travel on a crowded bus or speak on a job interview. If you practice this seemingly simple process of self-observation, you will realize that there is a much greater potential energy in you than you've ever thought. Pay attention to how you sit, stand, eat, speak, listen or touch. Observe each sense in you but don't try to change on them. Just let them as they are. We tend to overthink things. Let this happen, don't suppress it. But let these temporal impulses go. The aim of this practice is to stay neutral to the thoughts and emotions that arise in you.
People think it is inevitable to describe or analyze spiritual practices to make them tangible. The mechanism of this approach will rarely or never give you the answer you're looking for. And it is because it is much harder to take apart a thing we want to understand and try to put the parts back together. It is likely that if we try to understand something on this way we will misunderstand it while believing that we have understood it. A great example for that is people's perception as they have more understandings and concepts on the same things than ever before.
The way to learn or understand something is to let it as it is and then observe it. The same rule applies to your relationships, too. The act of loving is letting and accepting without the desire to change others. As a result, it is not the less amount of "bad" things will happen to you but the more opportunities you will be able to notice which will make your mental life richer.